Tuesday, September 1, 2015

The Desiderata of Approval

 There is an innate desideratum in all of us, and at some point that was/is approval. From a parent, sibling, significant other, instructor, boss, social or religious leader…we have the need to either seek or crave acceptance. I remember when my name was added to a plaque in the school’s trophy case for literary and artistic excellence. I went to the awards ceremony with my neighbors because we were all nominated for something. Some in sports, some in academics, others in the creative reaches. Imagine my delight when they called my name and handed me a two-foot tall trophy, and then my stupor when I tried to walk off stage twice, and twice they said, hold on…you have another. I went home with three trophies that night. It was the talk of the school that week, but not the talk of the family. Poetry? Art? Well, those are just hobbies. Does that sting because you hoped for approval?

 Let’s say that you strive to do good things and are a good person and by someone’s standards are knocked down and ripped apart, do you let it get to you? Is the judgment and lies from people who are jealous, envious, or even just annoyed by your gifts going to burrow beneath your skin? Will people with power over you abuse and forsake their positions and responsibilities to belittle and drag you down the rabbit hole (because at some point, if it’s constant, it will make you a little crazy)? Is the color of your skin, your culture, your economic and educational status the target of misogyny, bigotry, defamation of character?

 These aren’t trick questions. These things will always be true. Someone, whether close to you, a stranger, an insignificant acquaintance passing you on the path of life, will do or say hurtful things. They will not give you approval. But here’s the thing…don’t seek approval from them. Why? Even if they mean something to you, even if the mere thought of not being accepted cripples you, it doesn’t matter. There’s a bigger scheme of things, a giant canvas where these negative blotches are hidden by the beauty of the picture as a whole. Make sure that what you add enhances this beauty because that is the only way ugliness will not prevail.

 Why am I even talking about this? Because you’ll most likely face these things in one form or another. Knowing this world, most likely dozens of times over. It may be in response to your writing, or it may be in reference to a million other things in life.

 Remember that you can always try to be a better writer or a better person or a better student or a better worker, but not by the standards of pointless people. Don’t write or express your passion or do anything for the sake of the wrong people. They don’t get that privilege. Point. Blank.

 We seek or expect approval sometimes. Encouragement is a desideratum for the human psyche. But you don’t need it from worthless people who think “impunity” is their middle name. You really don’t. You can pursue and accomplish dreams without them. You kind of have to, right? That’s the point here. They don’t want to support you, they'll do anything to drag you down, so you do it without them. And when you think you are alone, you’re not. Because there are nurturing instructors and communities and fellow creative minds and true friends who appreciate you. Ignore the naysayers. Forget the haters. Stay focused. Move forward. Enjoy and explore your dreams. Because when you fight for it and keep fighting and are doing the right thing, you’ll get there and success will taste sweeter when you look back and see the carnage left behind by hatred, the carnage that never consumed you.

 The desiderata, then, should be approval from the right source, happiness, and a healthy and productive psyche.

Saturday, May 30, 2015

RT Rewind

I attended my first RT convention, which also happened to be my first industry convention. Seems a little strange, doesn’t it? Authors should be attending conventions like these, even if it’s on a much smaller scale. It’s a way to get inside information about the business, like what editors and agents want, what publishers are doing, how to market, and writing craft. It’s a great way to get into pitch sessions or meet editors and agents face to face, as well as other writers. Network. Network. Network.

Being my first RT, I hosted a few reader oriented events, but for the most part, I devoured whatever I could, from welcoming events to writer-geared panels to reader-oriented activities to social events. I felt like an in-betweener. A published author but also a rabid reader, and a newbie on top of that. I saw what the giant book fair was like and oh boy, was it huge, and the major signing event Friday night was a bit chaotic because I didn’t expect anything like it. The panels and workshops were as I expected and helpful, and the social events didn’t send me into a corner.

See, I’m not an out-going person. I kept repeating this at RT, only to be told that most writers aren’t. RT is one of the few times we can be because the environment is so welcoming and forgiving. You could start up a conversation with anyone standing in line around you, any random person who walks by. Shoot, I saw Charlaine Harris (yes, that Charlaine Harris) at breakfast, and I just went right up to her and started chatting. Everyone was friendly and easy-going because we were there for the same reason: our love for books. Wether writing them, reading them, publishing them, representing them, marketing them, or buying them. We connected. That’s how comfortable and welcoming RT is.

My schedule was packed from 6:30 am to midnight, there was always something to do, and most of the time, more than one thing to do. The mornings were about information mixed in with fun and giveaways, depending on which workshops or events you attended. Lunch comprised of meeting up with old and new friends.

With Sari Sisters, Mina and Sonali, rockstar author Sona, and Kishan.

With Entangled authors, the amazing Lynn, and rockstars Anna and Rachel.

The afternoons moved along quickly with more classes and the evenings exploded with large crowds at the watering hole, AKA the bar, before the nightly party.
The "watering hole".

Amid all these events, I met reviewers, a ton of authors both established and aspiring, readers, publishers, editors, and even cover models. I roomed with my good friend, Anna Banks, and we had some time to catch up and chat. I became close to a lot of authors I admire. I met my agent in person for the first time, which was a blast.

With my amazing kick-butt agent, Miriam.

I connected with some of my favorite authors. Some of those author highlights were Ann Aguirre, who is hilarious (in case you couldn’t tell from the sparkly unicorn hat)!

Kiera Cass (and that adorable bun she rocked all weekend), Sara Raasch (because I can’t think of a title that doesn’t sound like hers, we’re going to just use the same title), Sona Charaipotra (who I can text in the middle of the day about random stuff), Sonali Dev and Mina Khan (the world’s biggest sweethearts!), just to name a few.

Kathy and Brendan Reichs, I mean who doesn't love Bones?

Charlaine Harris at breakfast, as I mentioned earlier FYI, yes, that's me straight out of bed to get breakfast (of course I put on pants and brushed my teeth), but I don't even care that I was so exhausted from a week at RT and had puffy eyes. As my friend told me, Are you sure you’re not a dude, cuz you got some balls (from cotton balls to donut balls, I really don’t understand her infatuation). 

My biggest meet was the incredibly talented Meg Cabot (who absolutely rocked those six-inch adorable wedges). I loved her Princess Diaries and she is just as friendly and easy to talk to as anyone.

Of course, there was also a lot of swag. I mean, I’ll need another suitcase to get this stuff home. I’d expected maybe eight books, but I’d received over forty not counting ebooks! Aside from the many totes, bookmarks, postcards, candy, snacks, etc, I’d also received jewelry and liquor. Yeah, it was one heck of a takeaway.

But, I have to say that the biggest moment was the teen-day party and seeing all these teenagers fangirling/fanboying and getting misty eyed as they stood in front of their favorite authors. It was truly precious and I was impressed to hear what lengths some of these teens took to get there, to know that reading is not a lame and dying activity, that it is alive and well and thriving.

So, to all the people who rally around books, keep writing, keep reading, and never let the power of a good story fade. I hope to see you at next year’s RT convention, which will be in Las Vegas April 12-17.

Monday, May 11, 2015

Where You'll Find Me During RT 2015

 The RT convention is almost upon us, and this year it will be held in Dallas, TX. where I'll be out and about doing all sorts of things. Like workshops, panels, and of course parties. This is my first time at RT, so if you'd like to meet me in person, there are definitely a few times where I'll be hanging out waiting to chat with readers.

  Wed. evening at 4pm, I, along with a few very talented and friendly authors, will be at the bar and lounge enjoying the company and inviting readers to sit down and talk with us. Here's your chance to ask some of your favorite authors anything you'd like.

  Thurs., from 2:45-5pm, come hang out with me and my fellow Entangled authors to play Candy and Spoons and win lots of prizes, including books! I've never played spoons, so you'll probably beat me at the game!

  Sat. 2-3, join us for pizza and chat with your favorite Fierce Reads authors!

  And, don't forget Saturday is the BIG day for all readers. The giant book fair, and yes, it is giant, but no worries, this year, the authors will be in a giant room, but divided by genre and seated alphabetically. It's the fan-tastic day to meet your favorite authors and get lots of autographs, books, and goodies. It's also teen-day, so if you're a YA fanatic, you can't miss this!

  RT will be loads of information and fun for me, and loads of fan-girling (or fan-boying) and goodies for you! So what are you waiting for? Join the fun. See you at RT 2015.

Wednesday, March 18, 2015

You Have an Agent...So What's the Big Deal?

 I've heard many questions and comments about getting an agent, and I wanted to take a moment to address them and why landing an agent is actually a pretty huge deal.

  What does an agent do?
  To be short and simple, an agent gets your work through the door of the major/traditional publishing houses (what we call the Big Five: Hachette, HarperCollins, Macmillan, Penguin Random House, and Simon and Schuster). These houses will only look at manuscripts that come to them via an agent, whereas smaller houses and some imprints will directly accept author submissions.
  Agents know the right editors. They've built relationships and rapport with numerous editors and know what their tastes are, what they're looking for, how to pitch to them, etc.
  Agents know the market. They know what will sell and where it will sell best. They can guide their clients toward those projects when clients pitch ideas to them.
  An agent will help polish your ms before prospective editors ever see it, giving it the best chance at being acquired.
  Contract negotiations, because most authors don't know the legalese or how to negotiate well, and agents can negotiate the best deal possible, including ancillary subsidiary rights such as foreign, film/TV, electronic, etc.
  Agents are pillars of support. Don't whine and continuously cry on their shoulder for everything, but they support you from initial idea to fleshed out manuscripts to deal signings to whatever issues you may face afterward with your publisher. And they do it professionally and effectively. They are your go-to person.

  Do you really need an agent?
  No. There are many successful authors who make it on their own through smaller publishers/imprints and self-publishing, but most who go that route do not make it "big" (not that having an agent means you'll make it "big"). It's up to every author for what fits them and where they want to take their career. However, if you want a professional in your corner who knows the market, can get you into the major houses, and do all the things mentioned above, then yes, you should look for an agent.

  Do you pay agents?
  Nope. A legit agent makes a small percentage off their client's work. Hence why they work so hard at getting your work into the biggest houses with the best deals possible.

  How do you get an agent?
  With a lot of hard work, research, help, and humility. The hard work is actually writing and polishing your manuscript, synopsis, and query. The research is learning how to write those things as well as researching each and every agent for your genre(s), and there are hundreds. I went through Query Tracker, a reputable database, forum, and supportive community. As well, QT cross-references agents with Predators and EditorsAgentQueryAAR, and Publishers Marketplace to name a few. SFWA is also a good source, but with research, you'll find lots of resources. You will also want to look at each agent and who they represent and who they have sold to, and if those things mesh with your goals. Reading their website is a must, and it helps if you can find them on interviews, panels, and social media sites where they toss out what they're looking for. Help is finding critique partners to tear apart your ms, synopsis, and query with constructive feedback, as well as other authors. Humility because your ms will get doused in red marks, but take it with a grain of salt, apply if you see its worth, and be grateful that someone is taking time out to help you. You obviously believe your book is amazing, so it may be hard to handle if someone tells you otherwise. You will get lots of rejections from agents before/if anyone says 'yes'. Furthermore, you will get rejections from editors and some negative reviews from readers, but it's part of the business and by the time you have a book out there, if you've done all these things, then you won't curl up in a corner and cry...as much...because your skin will have thickened over time.

  How long does it take to get an agent?
  As mentioned in my previous post, it took me three months to find my new agent, but it generally takes anywhere from a month (rarely) to several years. On average for one book is 6-12 months if that book lands an agent. It may take several books to get an agent if at all. Agents are busy with their own clients, they get tons of queries to sort through (which may take three months), partials and fulls to read (which may take an additional 6 months). Each agent is different in their response times.

  How hard can it be to get an agent?
  This depends on your craft, the market, and which agents you're submitting to. There are no hard and fast rules and numbers. Some authors need a lot of work on their writing skills and will go years of querying a dozen books to land an agent, some have great craft and timing and will land an agent within a few months.
  Agents receive a ton of queries, and only a small percentage of those turn into requested material, and only a fraction of those will turn into an offer. Take for example my agent. She receives tens of thousands of queries a year. And she signs 0-3 new clients a year. That's less than 0.00015% chances of signing with her.
  So...yeah...getting an agent is a pretty big deal, to me anyway. It was facing the odds and winning after a long, long road.
  But it's not the end. It's just the beginning.

Tuesday, March 10, 2015

How I Got My (New) Agent!

This is a super long post, as you can tell, because…I HAVE AN AGENT!!!

You’re probably thinking, yeah, I know.

But you don't. I had an agent...

The succinct story:

I had an agent. We split. The ms we split over received 25 requests in 3 months (and more that still keep trickling in) and multiple offers of rep.

Breaking up—

Former agent and I split in the fall of 2014, just a year after I signed. It didn’t work out and I flew through all the hard-hitting emotions. 

But know this…breaking up is OKAY. It needs to be done sometimes, and it will lead the way for bigger and better things. It does not mean you’re a failure. Case in point: ME. It’s just like how you thought your boss was the bomb diggity when you signed on but it didn’t work out. 

Splitting happens for various reasons, and often times it is not a reflection of either party. Wallow in your misery for a little bit if you must. For the love of your sanity, find some support.

Keep your chin up, keep writing, move on, and rock it elsewhere. 

Never let one agent, one editor, one reviewer, one naysayer knock you so flat on your back that you never get back up.


When we split, my ms was ready to go. I loved it and there wasn’t a single thing I changed. There was no time to be mad or sad or anything in between.

I moved full speed ahead, because for the love of Twinkies, I have goals to meet and books to write, and ain’t nobody got time for this.

Did I have my depressing moments when I swore off writing forever because I couldn’t handle the heartache?

Ya betcha. But, I kept going because if you never try, if you give up today, you’ll never know what might’ve happened tomorrow. More importantly, I didn’t give up because I AM A WRITER. I can’t stop writing. No one can make me stop writing.

After the offer—

After the first offer, we set up THE CALL, which was amazing and I was thrilled to hear someone gush over my work and get it

She said she even teared up reading the ms. Bonus points! As soon as I notified all the agents still considering my work, more requests popped up within the hour and other offers rolled in within days.

But let me tell you how my new agent won me over…

The (direct) call—

She’d only had my ms for a few days, and while I expected her to reject me, she completely threw me for a loop. I usually don’t hear my cell ring, but it just happened to be in my hand. I usually don’t answer unknown numbers, but I saw that it was from NY. And it was her…Holy crap!! 

I’ve never had the “direct call”, and I was unprepared.

She is a dream agent and VP of a dream agency. She’s been on my radar for years, so my heart was palpitating a little bit. I might’ve been jumping up and down. 

We clicked, and then she said she only offers to authors she fangirls over. Um…what?? Someone FANGIRLED over me? 

A prospective, successful, offering agent fangirled over me?? SQUEE!! 

Of course, this is what you want to hear, that passion for the client and their work, it’s what drives the agent/author relationship, but fangirling just took this offer up a notch.

The decision—

The week I had to make such an important decision was a roller coaster of emotions, emails, phone calls, questions, offers, and of course lots of research. I was going mad. I was practically rocking myself in a corner with a bottle of bourbon.
As an author, I go through rejections, but for the first time, it was my turn to reject agents. 

And that was not as fun, haughty, or power-drunk as you think it is, although it’s great to have amazing options. 

I only had a few days to make a decision that could effect the rest of my life and make or break my career. 

No pressure.

And my rockstar agent is—

So, without further babbling, I’m so thrilled to announce that I’ve signed with the wonderful, renowned, driven Miriam Kriss from the exceptional Irene Goodman Literary Agency!!

Join me in a little dance.

Tuesday, January 27, 2015

In Salon Magazine!

 Didn't you think there were enough, or many, of us Asian-American female writers? Well, there are. As in, there are plenty of us out there. We're not a rarity. We're not elusive if you want to try and find us. There could be more of us, more authors of color and diverse backgrounds, period. But we ARE out there!

  I was mentioned in the arts and culture magazine, Salon, where the article brings to light the disparity of the lack of diversity in literature and diverse writers in general. When I first began my writing career, I felt the same way, and even went with an American pseudonym to engage readers and help them remember an "easy" name. Now, I realize how silly that was, but also, there are a ton of authors of color out there. There was also a delightful uprising of diverse literature that hit the shelves last year and will blast the literary pants off you this year.

Tuesday, December 30, 2014

2014 in Review

Priya in Heels

Every book release is a major time for any author, and in 2014 I went through grueling edits, marked and accepted my very last word, sailed through the highs of seeing my book cover for the first time, the nervous attacks of release day, and the roller-coaster that is promo-crunch-time. It was hard work, dedication, and joy. No matter the good or bad, what matters the most is the feeling of pure happiness when readers tell me how much they loved my book. How they laughed and cried and rooted for my characters as if they were real is something that I can’t even explain. It’s a wonderful accomplishment that I’m able to share with others, something that they can enjoy. Also, my editor is the bomb-diggity.


Boy, did I do a lot of personal traveling in 2014! It begin in February with my girls vacation to NYC, having dinner with a favorite author, making new friends, and enjoying NYC after so long.

We went to Hawaii! I saw so many sea turtles, and a volcano, and had many Mai Tai’s and shaved ice. I watched hubby jump off a thirty-foot cliff at the southern most US point, and I made it almost waist-deep into the ocean. We played on rare black sand beaches, one of four green sand beaches in the world, and a fine white sand beach that was worth the long hike. I could go on and on…

We did this international convention in Seattle where I met so many people from twenty-two countries across five continents. I discovered K-pop through all my new Korean friends. Night and Day was definitely the K-pop song of the year for me.

My good friend moved to Texas, so I helped her drive and we did a three-day road trip. FYI, don’t go through the Arizona desert in midday during the summer…you or your car may not survive. At one point, we ended up in Mexico. Then I spent a couple of weeks with my family in Austin.

Saris and Stories

I am one of seven South Asian romance writers who founded the Saris and Stories blog, which launched last summer. There, we discuss the way of the South Asian woman, writing, interviews, reviews, and pretty much anything that comes to mind.

Writing Dates and Authors

I’m fortunate enough to know some amazing local authors to have writing dates with. We have drinks and food and chat, but boy, do we get a lot of work done! They’ve been so supportive! Sometimes…a lot of the times for most of us…this business is not easy, and it helps to have the support of understanding friends.

Aside from local writers, I’m so grateful to have expanded my personal association with so many authors. I’ve met some truly outstanding people.


I brought my teacup Yorkie puppies home just before 2014, but I’m counting it for the year. Gambit and Rogue are such rambunctious treasures. I’ve enjoyed watching them grow and trying to train them…they still have a long way to go.


We recently relocated and I’m happy to have met a few new friends. I’m very introverted and quiet, so it’s nice to meet people who can bring the loud and crazy out of me.

Reading List

My reading list is endless and I’ll never catch up. There are books that catch my attention almost weekly. Between shelves of hardcovers and paperbacks, five different e-reader apps, and the local library, I’m about a hundred books behind on my TBR list. I read less books this year than last at a sad twenty-three. I could blame it on my edits, my release, traveling, etc., but I know some people who have similar or more grueling schedules and have read upwards to over two hundred books. Yeah. You read that correctly.

2014 had a lot of new and exciting things, and I’m certain 2015 will, too. I hope everyone had a wonderful year and that next year will be bigger and better.